Duke dean discusses impostor syndrome

first_imgAs part of the Distinguished Lecture Series, Dr. Valerie Ashby, the dean of Trinity College Arts and Sciences at Duke University, gave a lecture titled “The Impostor Syndrome” Wednesday.“One day they are going to find out, I’m not really supposed to be here,” Ashby said to the audience.She said that if anyone else had ever felt this before, they might be experiencing the effects of the impostor syndrome.First identified by Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, impostor syndrome is most commonly found “among high achievers who are unable to internalize and accept their success,” according to the American Psychological Association (APA). It is often an effect of mental illnesses such as anxiety or depression. It can also be a byproduct of growing up in families that place pressure on achievement.Ashby said she first diagnosed herself with the impostor syndrome at age 42, and before then, she simply dealt with its effects without knowing how to cope with it.“That’s a hard life,” she said. “You don’t have to do that.”Ashby asked who in the crowd thought they might experience the impostor syndrome in their daily life. She said she used to deal with its effects often and said compliments can hurt with imposter syndrome.“I’m thinking, oh my God, they think I can do this, and then … it’s pain. I laugh about this a lot because it’s actually painful,” she said.Ashby tried to give audience members a few key ways to cope with impostor syndrome.“One of the first things you have to do is not to walk around with this and not tell anybody,” she said. “You’re going to need some friends. No, no, no, I’m talking about real friends. Trusted friends. They will validate your feelings, but not your incorrect thinking.”Ashby said it’s normal for people to doubt themselves.“Doubt does not make you a fraud,” she said.As she learned about impostor syndrome, Ashby said she learned the importance of building up self-esteem and seeking validation from within by celebrating the small, good things in life.“As the dean, I am in charge of the chair of the department of physics,” she said. “I got a C in physics. Perfect[ion] is not required. When I would get my C+ on a physics exam, I should have been dancing! That’s a small good thing.”When things go awry, Ashby said it’s important to let go of the mistakes as they come. She said people dealing with impostor syndrome often feel like they should have mastered everything already, but it’s just not possible and mistakes happen no matter what you do.“You are not the mistake,” she said. “You made a mistake. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not doing anything. Nothing risky, nothing cutting edge, nothing creative. It can’t go perfectly.”While undergraduate and graduate students often fall prone to overcommitting, Ashby gave advice on how to combat the urge to take every opportunity given. She said that although high achievers can do many things well, it’s important to only do the things that are great for you right now.“I start with a blank calendar, and I put everything that is required for my self-care on first,” she said. “If we put ourselves on the calendar, you treat yourself like an appointment. I have an appointment with me. Because people will always want more from you than you can give.”Ultimately, Ashby said dealing with the effects of impostor syndrome is important not only for yourself but also your friends and family.“I love my life. There are a lot of people counting on me,” she said. “If I don’t take care of me, I have nothing to give them.”Tags: distinguished lecture series, imposter syndromelast_img read more

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Russia’s Alexandrova wins maiden WTA title in Shenzhen

first_img Promoted ContentWhich Country Is The Most Romantic In The World?Couples Who Celebrated Their Union In A Unique, Unforgettable Way20 Facts That’ll Change Your Perception Of “The Big Bang Theory”Birds Enjoy Living In A Gallery Space Created For Them8 Ways Drones Will Automate Our Future10 Risky Jobs Some Women Do7 Universities In The World With The Highest Market ValueWho Earns More Than Ronaldo?8 Superfoods For Growing Hair Back And Stimulating Its Growth12 Flicks That Almost Ended Their Stars’ CareersInsane 3D Spraying Skills Turn In Incredible Street Art7 Ways To Understand Your Girlfriend Better The fifth seed won 6-2, 6-4 in 73 minutes to begin her season and her Australian Open preparations with a bang. The 25-year-old Alexandrova, ranked a career-high 34th in the world, collapsed to her knees after dismissing Rybakina, the seventh seed from Kazakhstan.Advertisement Read Also: WTA Classic: Serena glad to be back in New Zealand Alexandrova, who triumphed in a WTA 125K event in Limoges, France last month, defeated former world number one Garbine Muguruza in the semi-finals in southern China. FacebookTwitterWhatsAppEmail分享 Loading… center_img Alexandrova played incredibly well to knock out Muguruza in Shenzhen yesterday. Another straight-set win tonight for her first-ever WTA singles title. One to keep an eye on. https://t.co/tt5UxRe2Ra— Jason (@Hurleytennis) January 11, 2020 Ekaterina Alexandrova won her first WTA singles title after the in-form Russian defeated Elena Rybakina in straight sets in the final of the Shenzhen Open on Saturday.last_img read more

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Ash Barty out on her own as she sets benchmark for Australian tennis

first_imgAs coach Craig Tyzzer was calmly guiding the exceptional Ash Barty to the first top-15 finish by an Australian woman since Sam Stosur’s farewell to year-end single-figures back in 2012, an unhappier development was taking place further down the tennis food chain.“The thing that stands out for me is that we don’t have any girls playing in the junior events at the slams,” says Tyzzer, after a year in which Australia were unrepresented in the main draws at Roland Garros, Wimbledon and Flushing Meadows. “It’s pretty disappointing to see that we don’t have that depth coming through.” Ash Barty ends her season with biggest WTA victory of career so far Pratt identifies several issues as crucial to further improvement, generally: lifting the tennis IQ of young players – and this is a global thing – who are watching less of the sport than previously; boosting self-belief; and facilitating the ability to find a way through on days when perfection is elusive and sheer competitiveness the decisive factor. Topics Read more As for Destanee Aiava, the powerful teen who pushed world No 1 Simona Halep to a first-set tiebreak on Rod Laver Arena in January, progress has slowed somewhat after an unsettling year of personal change and adjustment. The holistic approach being taken with the Year 12 student, now based in Sydney, is the appropriate course. For now, it’s not about the tennis.“Destanee obviously has real potential but she’s still very young and has a lot of maturing to do in a lot of different areas,” said Pratt. “What people probably thought would happen overnight, it won’t happen overnight, and we’re OK with that. She’s only 18 years of age, and if we take that patient, deliberate approach I hope we’re actually surprised by her progress at whatever point in time [it occurs].”Among the older group, Pratt concedes that Gavrilova’s season “could have been better”. On serve, in particular, and also physically, but Achilles inflammation and the return of strength and conditioning coach Stefano Barsacchi to his native Italy were contributing factors.Cue Barty as motivating factor. Bravo. Again. “Dash and Ash have had a little bit of a friendly rivalry, and I think Dash will be keen to improve on her past year, for sure, starting with a strong pre-season,” says Pratt.And Stosur? At 34, the fading 2011 US Open champion is still as keen and committed as ever, despite her current slot of 72nd, and following an apparently amicable split with coach Josh Eagle after a two-year collaboration. The former world No 1 in doubles is enjoying more of her success in that realm these days; in singles, clay still represents her best chance of success, and the French Open remains her beacon, major-wise. Share via Email Sign up to The Recap, our weekly email of editors’ picks. Australia sport Share on Twitter Tennis … we have a small favour to ask. More people, like you, are reading and supporting the Guardian’s independent, investigative journalism than ever before. And unlike many news organisations, we made the choice to keep our reporting open for all, regardless of where they live or what they can afford to pay. Whether we are up close or further away, the Guardian brings our readers a global perspective on the most critical issues of our lifetimes – from the escalating climate catastrophe to widespread inequality to the influence of big tech on our lives. We believe complex stories need context in order for us to truly understand them. At a time when factual information is a necessity, we believe that each of us, around the world, deserves access to accurate reporting with integrity at its heart.Our editorial independence means we set our own agenda and voice our own opinions. Guardian journalism is free from commercial and political bias and not influenced by billionaire owners or shareholders. This means we can give a voice to those less heard, explore where others turn away, and rigorously challenge those in power.We hope you will consider supporting us today. We need your support to keep delivering quality journalism that’s open and independent. Every reader contribution, however big or small, is so valuable. Support The Guardian from as little as $1 – and it only takes a minute. Thank you. Share on WhatsApp Ashleigh Barty Support The Guardian features Novak Djokovic and Rafael Nadal showdown in Saudi Arabia called off Share on Facebook Read more Reuse this content Share on LinkedIn Barty famously won the Wimbledon girls’ title as a shy 15-year-old and, after taking a sabbatical from the sport from late 2014 to early 2016, the gifted Queenslander last week capped a career-best season by beating multiple top-20 rivals to claim the winners’ trophy and prize money of $828,000 at the WTA Elite Trophy in Zhuhai, China.The leading Australian on either tour for the second consecutive season, Barty’s 3,000 rankings points dwarfed the 1,335 by women’s No 2 Daria Gavrilova (No 38), with recent passport-holder Ajla Tomljanovic (43) and the veteran Stosur (72) the only other sub-150 locals.“There are a few girls in that next crop with Lizette Cabrera, Priscilla Hon, Jaimee Fourlis. Ellen Perez is making a pretty good run at it, Astra Sharma… there’s a few girls that haven’t really broken through but it’s a good core group,” says Tyzzer, who is also hearing promising reports about 15-year-old Canberran Annerly Poulos.“Certainly it would be nice to have the next generation of players coming through looking at Ash and going ‘gee, we want to be like her and play like her’, so hopefully this helps. Having a player at this level puts tennis in the spotlight, and the way Ash goes about her tennis is everything we want to push in our development of players, and of people, too.”Yet while the pointy end may appear relatively thin on numbers, Nicole Pratt, Tennis Australia’s head of women’s professional tennis, has a recent historical basis to argue otherwise, having prioritised rebuilding the important foundation of players ranked from 100-250. Indeed, nine women improved by 100-plus rankings places in 2018.“Three years ago we had one woman between 100 and 250, and now we have 10,” Pratt says. “I’m really excited for what’s next for some of those players. It’s going to be a real process to prioritise that, and I think there’ll be a few that put their heads into the top 100 in the next 12 to18 months.’’Hon, for example – the 20-year-old Queenslander and world No 158. Fourlis has just finished her first full year on the circuit in promising fashion at No 202, while Perez and Sharma have also been consistent at ITF level. Cabrera may have retreated, rankings-wise, but not without benefitting from the experiences gained via a schedule heavier on tough WTA qualifying events. Share on Pinterest Share on Messenger Since you’re here…last_img read more

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15 days agoChelsea keeper Kepa insists no Real Madrid regrets

first_imgChelsea keeper Kepa insists no Real Madrid regretsby Carlos Volcano15 days agoSend to a friendShare the loveChelsea goalkeeper Kepa Arrizabalaga insists he has no regrets missing a move to Real Madrid.Kepa was all set to leave Athletic Bilbao for Real in January 2018, only for Zinedine Zidane to block the switch.He recalled: “It was a few months in which my grandmother saw me more in the newspaper than in person. There was a lot of talk about me. Also because of an injury I was not going through good times.”I was finishing my contract and since January I could talk to teams. I didn’t get to see what happened. “I ended up renewing and with the idea of staying and after six months I left. It’s the only contradiction.” TagsTransfersAbout the authorCarlos VolcanoShare the loveHave your saylast_img read more

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Top Catalan lawmaker freed from jail after posting bail

first_imgMADRID – A top Catalan lawmaker on Friday left a Madrid prison where she spent the night after posting the bail a Spanish judge imposed as part of a wide-ranging rebellion investigation stemming from Catalonia’s declaration of independence.Spain’s Supreme Court said the judge who jailed and set bail Thursday for Catalonia Parliament speaker Carme Forcadell, freed her after the 150,000 euros ($175,000) bond was registered.As conditions of Forcadell’s release, the judge withdrew her passport and ordered her to stay in Spain, to check in at a court in Catalonia each week and to return before the Supreme Court if summoned.The lawmaker left the prison in a car without speaking to reporters.“We’re going back home,” she tweeted later. “With an easy conscience for having acted correctly: to guarantee freedom of expression in (the Catalan) Parliament, headquarters of the national sovereignty.”Forcadell and five other Catalan lawmakers are being investigated for the actions that led to the regional Parliament’s Oct. 27 vote to declare independence from Spain.After questioning the lawmakers, magistrate Pablo Llarena jailed only Forcadell immediately. He ordered four to pay 25,000-euro ($29,000) bail in one week to remain out of custody and released another who opposed the declaration of Catalonia as a separate republic.In his ruling, Llarena wrote that all “have expressed that either they renounce future political activity or, those who want to remain active, will do it renouncing any actions outside the constitutional framework.”Spanish government spokesman Inigo Mendez de Vigo said the lawmakers’ commitment to the judge indicated that a “return of constitutional order (in Catalonia) is starting to become a reality.”Forcadell, long one of the leading figures of the Catalan independence movement, testified Thursday that the independence declaration was “symbolic,” according to lawyers familiar with the proceedings.Spanish Foreign Minister Alfonso Dastis told Cope radio Friday that it “remains to be seen” if Forcadell will follow Spanish laws and court rulings preventing Catalan lawmakers from unilaterally seceding. If she doesn’t, Dastis expects the judge to consider revoking Forcadell’s bail.Eight members of the now-defunct Catalan government remain jailed in a related rebellion case. Former regional president Carles Puigdemont and four other ex-cabinet members fled to Belgium where they are fighting extradition.Two other grassroots secession group leaders have also been jailed in a parallel sedition probe. One of the two groups, the National Catalan Assembly that was formerly headed by Forcadell, said Friday it had paid her bail.Spain’s constitutional Court warned that the Parliament’s Oct. 27 vote declaring a new Catalan republic would be illegal. Most opposition lawmakers boycotted the session.The Spanish government responded by seizing control of the wealthy northeastern region, the first time in the four decades since Gen. Francisco Franco’s dictatorship ended that Madrid removed powers from any of the country’s 17 regions.Central authorities dismissed the Catalan regional president and his government, dissolved the parliament and called a new regional election for Dec. 21.Catalonia, with 7.5 million people, represents a fifth of Spain’s gross domestic product and polls show its people roughly evenly divided over independence. Puigdemont claimed a banned Oct. 1 secession referendum gave it a mandate to declare independence.___This story has been corrected to show that spelling of the Spanish foreign minister’s surname on second reference is Dastis, not Datis.last_img read more

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UK car sales fell in 2018 by most since financial crisis

first_imgLONDON — A lobby group for the U.K. auto industry says new vehicle sales in 2018 fell by their biggest rate since the global financial crisis a decade ago.The Society of Motor Manufacturers and Traders said Monday that new car sales during the year were down by 6.8 per cent from the year before at 2.37 million units. That’s the biggest decline since 2008, when the British economy sank into a deep recession in the wake of the financial crisis.Mike Hawes, the group’s chief executive, says “falling consumer confidence, confusing fiscal and policy messages and shortages due to regulatory changes have combined to create a highly turbulent market.”Without directly blaming the fall on Brexit uncertainty, Hawes said these figures “should act as a wake-up call for policymakers.”The Associated Presslast_img read more

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WhatsApp makes group chats more secure gives users more control

first_imgNew Delhi: WhatsApp Wednesday said it will now allow its users to decide whether they want to get added to groups on the instant messaging platform. The move assumes significance, especially ahead of elections in the country, as social media platforms are expected to play a major role in political campaigns to reach out to citizens in large numbers. “WhatsApp groups continue to connect family, friends, coworkers, classmates and more. As people turn to groups for important conversations, users have asked for more control over their experience,” the Facebook-owned company said in a statement. Also Read – India gets first tranche of Swiss bank a/c details The messaging app has added that a new privacy setting in which an invite system will help users decide who can add them to groups. Previously, WhatsApp users could be added to groups without their consent. To enable the feature, users can go to ‘settings’ option in WhatsApp app and select one of three options — nobody, my contacts, or everyone. If they choose nobody , users will have to approve joining every group to which they are invited. Also Read – Tourists to be allowed in J&K from Thursday Upon choosing my contacts option, users from the person’s address book will be able to add them to groups. In these cases, the person inviting you to a group will be prompted to send a private invite through an individual chat, giving the user choice of joining the group. The user will be given three days to accept the invite before it expires, the statement said. “With these new features, users will have more control over the group messages they receive,” WhatsApp said. These new privacy settings will begin rolling out to some users starting Wednesday, and will be available worldwide in the coming weeks to those using the latest version of WhatsApp, it added. WhatsApp, which counts India as one of its largest markets with over 200 million users, had faced flak from the Indian government after a series of mob-lynching incidents, triggered by rumours circulating on the messaging platform, claimed lives last year. Under pressure to stop rumours and fake news, WhatsApp had last year restricted forwarding messages to five chats at once. It has also been putting out advertisements in newspapers and running television and radio campaigns offering tips to users on how to spot misinformation. With ensuing general elections, the Indian government had warned social media platforms of strong action if any attempt was made to influence the country’s electoral process through undesirable means. One of the amendments being mulled in the IT intermediary rules (meant for online and social media platforms) will require them to enable tracing out of such originators of information as needed by government agencies that are legally authorised. However, WhatsApp has so far resisted the government’s demand for identifying message originators, arguing that such a move would undermine the end-to-end encryption and the private nature of the platform, creating potential for serious misuse.last_img read more

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Morocco trial of British paedophile suspect adjourned

first_imgRABAT- The trial of a British man held in Morocco on charges of raping a young girl has been adjourned until next month, a rights activist who attended Tuesday’s court hearing told AFP.Robert Bill, 59, who did not attend the hearing in the northern town of Tetouan, is accused of kidnapping two Moroccan girls and raping another.He was arrested at a petrol station in Tetouan last June when locals overheard the screams of a 6-year-old girl he allegedly abducted, surrounded his Spanish-registered car and alerted police. The judge at the court in Tetouan fixed the next hearing for February 11, according to Mohammed Benaissa, who heads the Northern Observatory for Human Rights.The suspect is currently being held at the prison in Sale, twin town of the capital Rabat.The man, originally from north Wales, was a resident of the town of Ceuta, a Spanish enclave in northern Morocco, and was also the subject of an arrest warrant issued by the Spanish police for alleged paedophilia and kidnapping.last_img read more

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Emir of Qatar offers his palace in Agadir to King Mohammed

first_imgRabat – The Emir of Qatar, Sheikh Tamim Bin Hamad Al Tani offers his palace located on the seaside of Agadir city to king Mohamed VI.After he bought it from the family of Saudi Crown Prince Sultan Bin Abdul Aziz Al-Saud, the Emir of Qatar offered his palace to king Mohamed VI. The palace lies on the coast of Agadir.According to the 17th issue of the daily Akhbar Al-Yaoum, the procedures for the transfer of the palace’s ownership started earlier this week, and the property has been officially handed over to the Ministry of the Royal Household, Protocol and Chancellery. The ceremony of the transfer of the property’s ownership was attended by representatives from the the Embassy of Qatar to Morocco and officials from of the Moroccan Ministry of the Royal Household, Protocol and Chancellery.This palace becomes officially the third royal palace in the capital of Souse, after the two royal palaces located in Bensergaw and in Agadir touristic zone respectively.© Morocco World News. All Rights Reserved. This material may not be published, rewritten or redistributedlast_img read more

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The Midseason Acquisitions Who Are Making Major Strides in the NHL Postseason

On Sunday night, the New York Rangers took a 3-1 lead over the Montreal Canadiens in the NHL’s Eastern Conference finals, thanks to a game-winning goal by Martin St. Louis six minutes into overtime of Game 4.It was the sixth goal of the playoffs for St. Louis, who was acquired by the Rangers in a trade with the Tampa Bay Lightning on March 6. In 19 regular-season games with New York after the trade, St. Louis didn’t produce much of note — just one goal and seven assists — but he’s been the Rangers’ most productive offensive player during the playoffs, generating 5.1 goals created in 18 games this postseason.St. Louis’s performance during New York’s playoff run had me thinking about other players who were acquired during the season and played a major role in their teams’ playoff charges. We can try to measure how important a player’s basic offensive production was within the context of his team by dividing his goals created by the total number of goals scored and allowed by the team during the playoffs. For example, the Rangers have scored 49 goals and allowed 38 during the 2014 playoffs, so St. Louis’s 5.1 goals created represent 5.8 percent of the goals scored in the Rangers’ playoff games.If we do this for every player whose team made the conference finals since the NHL expanded in 1967-68, we see that St. Louis’s rate ranks 20th among players who joined their playoff team during the regular season. Here are the leaders:St. Louis has gotten a lot of press during the playoffs for spearheading the Rangers’ attack, but by this metric he hasn’t even been the most impactful midseason pickup by a 2014 conference finalist. Marian Gaborik of the Los Angeles Kings, acquired from the Columbus Blue Jackets around the same time St. Louis was packing his bags for New York, has created 6.5 percent of the goals scored during Los Angeles’s playoff games this year.Gaborik doesn’t get as much attention because he’s been the Kings’ third-leading playoff scorer behind Anze Kopitar and Jeff Carter. According to these numbers, though, he’s had a hand in a slightly larger share of the available scoring than St. Louis has. read more

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